Emotionally Balanced is a Healthy Life

What does it mean to be emotionally balanced and healthy

It seems talking about emotional well-being is a conversation no one wants to have. And yet happiness and gratitude begins in the emotion body.  We all assume we need to be ever striving for bigger better more? And yet what are we giving up to chase the illusive “this will make me happy” mind set. We are not referring to complacency; we are referring to contentment for those good things that are currently showing up in our lives vs wishing wanting things to be different but never finding that place of contentment.

 

The bigger question is how can we be emotionally content with what IS? Gratitude for what IS

 

Title a piece of paper want vs have

Identify 5 things that you “want” in your life no matter how unrealistic. List them under Want.

On right hand side under “have” make a list of 5 things you already have that you love and adore.

Now look at both of those lists and bring the same number into the “vs” column.

Identify the same number of want vs have. (If you wrote 3 in each column, match that in the “vs” column).

Let’s say in the “have” column is your children, do you want to keep them on the list or are you willing to give them up to have something else from your want list.  We only have so much time and energy in our lives. What we want takes away from what we already have so we need to identify it.

Do we spend a life time wanting something while ignoring or taking away from what we have?  It is not a question, we do this. This exercise is to help us see it. And to help us see that maybe what IS is really pretty good and worth holding on to.

 

 

Did you sell your emotional well being for a price?

Some where someone told you in order to be happy you needed this.

Let’s look a little deeper and ask ourselves some questions and see if we can identify a few trouble spots.

Ask yourself or write it down,

Who told you in order to be happy you need ________?

What makes them the authority?

What would happen if you just walked away from the energy of “wanting” that goal?

Take a deep breath in and see if after making this decision you feel lighter.

Is there a sense of relief to identify that maybe you really don’t want this goal, it’s just been on your list for so long you forgot to reassess.

Take another deep breath and allow the thoughts to come to your mind as you introspect and learn to let go of the energy attached to that thought, idea, and goal.

Take a moment and really focus on one of those things that you have and allow a feeling of gratitude to well up inside you. Hold onto that feeling long enough to do a reboot.

 

Let’s say that one of the items you moved to the middle is worthy of your time and energy.

Ask yourself “what is stopping you from accomplishing this goal?

Ask who would be unhappy with me if I accomplished this goal?

What would have to change in order to have this goal?

What belief would you need to change or walk away from in order to accomplish this goal?

And most importantly how can you be grateful along the journey to this goal materializing?

How is being emotionally balanced a benefit?

Gratitude is the energy that allows us to be emotionally balanced and free.

What are those stories that you hold onto? You know the one you just can’t wait to tell someone, everyone who will listen to you and how you were unjustly treated.

Notice what happens when you tell a good story or think a happy thought. Now notice what happens when you think of something sad or unjust.

Your body/ mind does not know the difference between something that is happening now or years ago yet every time you think of it you bring back that same feeling.

Use this to your advantage and stay in the space of gratitude as long and as often as you can.

You’ll notice an increase in your vital energy flow. Your thoughts and ideas will be creative and spot on. Find something in nature that is beautiful and hold space with it daily.

 

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Stress of Life got you in the Crazy Tree?

Have you ever felt like you were up in the crazy tree of life?

Stress level so high that if you were to describe your location it would be up in a tree.

Let’s talk about one of those things that stress us out and can send us up the crazy tree. I am referring to when someone gets in your head and you can’t get them out. You are trying to understand “why” they said something or “why” they did what they did.  Instead of trying to understand I recommend that you try to have compassion for.

 

Have you ever met someone that you just did not understand, and caught you saying something to the effect “why does he/she act like that? I just don’t understand.  Each time we say something of this nature our amazing minds go to work to find the answer to the question that was just put forth.  It can however drive you crazy in the process of trying to understand and your mind seeks more info and more questions arise and more questions go unanswered to the point of driving you crazy.  And all you think about is this person or event.

“I feel stress, I just don’t understand her”

One of my clients was forever frustrated with her daughter. She let that frustration create stress and fester and brew until she could not look at or think about the child without driving herself crazy.

“I just don’t understand her” she would say. “She knows better than to act like this” she continued.  This would be the conversation she would have with anyone who would listen to her, as if by telling everyone she would find that one person who could finally give her the answer. Sadly the answer to why never came and as time went on her relationship with her daughter began to fall apart. Neither of them could speak to the other. “You just don’t get me”. Her daughter would say. “Your right I don’t “, her mother would reply.

Why couldn’t the mother understand? She in her own life experiences had no reference point to base an understanding from.  She would never fully understand as these were not her life lessons they belonged to her daughter.  I invited mother to instead of asking “why” to think of the things going on in her daughter’s life.  If this girl were someone else child could she look at her and have compassion for the things going on with the girl? Or could she think of someone who had had similar life experiences and recall that is was difficult for them and that she could feel the struggle they went through?

 

Practical application to reduce Stress:

Begin by going to a compassionate reference point within you. Breathe into and hold space with whatever memory comes to your mind that brings compassion online. It might be a song, a poem, or special person to you. Hang out there and take a few deep breaths to allow this feeling to completely wash over you.  Now think of this person, bring them to your mind and instead of asking why they act that way, have compassion for the life experiences that have created that response in their life.  Imagine in your mind’s eye that you wrap your arms around this person even if it is yourself and send them love. It might be the only hug they/you get all day.

 

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Talk me down from the Crazy Tree,  Simple tools to deal with the everyday stress of life

Emotion body talk

emotional healing
Start in the Emotion body

Let’s talk body type, emotion body type

Let’s talk body type, emotion body type. We are not referring to the pear-shaped or even the hourglass shape. The body type that we’re going to discuss is how and where you carry your emotions. So how do you know where you carry her emotions.? Let’s look through your body and see if we can determine the likely places. Starting at the head if you’re prone to headaches research has shown that this is the place where we hold onto things that need to be said. We’re just dying to get those things out and because we don’t creates a headache. Are you prone to neck pain if so think about this.

The neck is the place where we are unwilling to look fully to the left or to the right to see beyond what is in front of us.   have you ever heard the phrase stiff neck? emotions held in our neck often cause neck pain or stiff neck.  Let’s go to the shoulders do you have shoulder pain is it a chronic pain that you carry? Ask yourself are you carrying the burden of someone else are you responsible for other people or feel that you are.? And what about that pain that holds so strongly with in our hearts. it can show up was heart ache   It can also show up in our back holding in the place of betrayal or abandonment.  Even more curious is that these emotions  we hold in our body can be attached to an event that we have long forgotten.  our body still remembers and it tries to tell us in the language of pain.   Do you have stomach issues. Could be similar to acid reflex , unwillingness to keep down or swallow life around you or information that you were hearing. Do you have digestive issues unable to digest life. More specifically unable to digest anything creating a holding on effect. Perhaps your hips or talking to you there’s a little bit of pain within your hips and you might ask yourself is there a change in your life that you were unwilling to walk to words,this can be said the entire lower body.

What emotion body type are you?

Let’s talk body type. We are not referring to the pear-shaped or even the hourglass shape. The body type that we’re going to discuss is how and where you carry your emotions. So how do you know where you carry her emotions.? Let’s look through your body and see if we can determine the likely places. Starting at the head if you’re prone to headaches research has shown that this is the place where we hold onto things that need to be said. We’re just dying to get those things out and because we don’t creates a headache. Are you prone to neck pain if so think about this. The neck is the place where we are unwilling to look fully to the left or to the right to see beyond what is in front of us.   have you ever heard the phrase stiff neck? emotions held in our neck often cause neck pain or stiff neck.  Let’s go to the shoulders do you have shoulder pain is it a chronic pain that you carry? Ask yourself are you carrying the burden of someone else are you responsible for other people or feel that you are.? And what about that pain that holds so strongly with in our hearts. it can show up was heart ache   It can also show up in our back holding in the place of betrayal or abandonment.  Even more curious is that these emotions  we hold in our body can be attached to an event that we have long forgotten.  our body still remembers and it tries to tell us in the language of pain.   Do you have stomach issues. Could be similar to acid reflex, unwillingness to keep down or swallow life around you or information that you were hearing. Do you have digestive issues unable to digest life. More specifically unable to digest anything creating a holding on effect. Perhaps your hips or talking to you there’s a little bit of pain within your hips and you might ask yourself is there a change in your life that you were unwilling to walk to words.this can be said the entire lower body
What body type are you. Where do you carry your pain. Where are your unresolved emotions showing up in your body. And more importantly how do you resolve these issues.

First identify your body type your emotion body type

And then let’s look back and see if there is something that keeps showing up in your life. Let’s go first to the shoulders. Let’s say that you have chronic shoulder pain and you have for years. Look back at the time line of your life and see if you can identify the correlation between when your shoulders started hurting and perhaps an emotional events trauma that you decided to tuck away. We all do it we’ve all done it we have an emotional events or trauma and we tell ourselves we’re just not ready to let it go or resolve it. So we put it neatly up on the shelf in the back of the closet and we tell ourselves when we’re ready we will bring it out and we will with it.  And so our conscious mind sticks that events or trauma on the shelf but our subconscious mind actually knows what is best for us. and periodically it brings a similar events or memories to our awareness as if to say ” remember its to time to deal with this”. our subconscious mind will only do things for our highest good to help us ( look up phrasing for highest good).
And so when the similar events cycle back through they might show up creating a bit of anxiety sometimes even depression. They always seem to find a spot in our body to speak to us.  We don’t always recognize that this is for our good we noticed it has that pain in our shoulders.
What if we could have a conversation with our shoulders. To find out what it is that the pain is trying to tell us. Because remember everything that shows up is for our highest good. And if we look at our lives and our bodies and the messages as a symbol of what our subconscious mind is trying to teach us. We will then begin to look at the symbols or the messages that keep showing up.

Dreams are another way the emotion body speaks to us

Dreams are another way that our subconscious mind speaks to us. The story unfolds and if we remember the dream we try to put meaning to it. A recent client came in and said that he had been having dreams of bombs dropping everywhere , he was just trying to stay ahead  of those dropping bombs. And that was really all he could remember from the dream. What did it mean what does it symbolize. As we dug deeper into the message held in the body it came out he had in fact in his waking hours felt as if he was on a battleground. This particular emotion was held in his heart and the heart was breaking.  We ask the body message was what was the message for higher good what was it trying to tell us.  The message for him was forgiveness. It was breaking his heart to hold onto the anger he felt. Symbolic of the dream his life did not feel in harmony with who he was as a spiritual being.  His body was trying to tell  him from a symbolic battle ground.
Our bodies are the most amazing things they heal without our telling it to.  Have you ever cut your finger and commanded it to heal?  It just goes to work and gets the job done.
The emotion body is no different in its desire to be whole.
Let’s say you have a traumatic event somewhere between the age of 5-7.  the child you assigned it a meaning and stuck it neatly on the shelf of your memories.

Are you ready to address the emotion body

Throughout the years from time to time you would have a play back of something similar from your childhood. ( the loop). Without realizing that our subconscious mind was trying to do some house cleaning and clear out some of those emotions held in that memory, we might have felt like it was “just our re-occurring saga”.   To your credit it showed up because you were ready to assign it a better meaning.  If only the emotion body could talk to us to tell us where we are holding on to unnecessary baggage.   It does, just as it does with a self healing mechanism for our physical body, our emotion body talks to us with pain signals or dis-ease, or even disease.
Start tuning in to your body and see what you notice your body telling you.
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What is the Voice of Intuition or Higher Wisdom

What are the voices that you hear in your head.

Do they tune out your voice of intuition? Would you even know the voice of your higher wisdom? Are there to many voices in you head to know who you are listening to? Do you turn the music up just to tune them out?  Ask yourself if you have to always have sound of some sort going on in the back ground.  Have you told yourself that the sound is to drown out the voices in your head?

Does anxiety set in when you hear them?

Let’s first address the negative voices.
How many are there? Identify the one that is the loudest and see if you can move that voice to one of your extremities, the  thumb is a good place to start. As you listen to this negative voice assign it a voice of say a cartoon character. As you listen to this voice bring in static of some sort to drown out the voice, turn up the volume on the static so that you can no longer hear the voice at all.  Repeat this with as many voices as you hear until the only voices are those that speak positive encouragement to your mind.

Loops of depression can cause negative chatter

Like many of us trapped in a loop of depression or anxiety the voices we hear are those of negative self chatter telling us all the things we can not do until we are so convinced of their message that we are tuning out the voice of reason.   And when someone tries to enter into the conversation with a positive comment they are left unheard.
How do you become aware of those negative voices and more importantly that you are listening to them?  First sit in the silence and see what comes to your mind. Are you able to find a place of peace or do you hear chatter?  Really listen and see if you can identify the message.
Human nature is that of negativity, we are drawn towards the worst possible scenario’s. We tell ourselves that nothing ever works out. And then confirm  it to ourselves when it does not.

Time to take charge and discern which is the voice of intuition

It’s time to take charge of your thoughts, to be able to discern what is the voice of intuition whispering to you and guiding you towards what you need to do. Or if it is the voices of the adversary filling your thoughts will those things that hold you hostage and trapped in negativity.
If you are trapped in negativity you are less likely to seek and fulfill your purpose on this earth plan and less likely to trust that you are guided intuitively.

Building Evidence

Get a black note book and and one in an other color.   First you have to know whose voice you are listening to.  Now each time you have a negative thought write it down in the black notebook.   Take the same thought and flip it, rephrase it to a positive and now write it down in the colored note book.
Example of negative: “I can’t do anything right”
Rephrase it ” l do a lot of things right”. Now bring to mind a time that you listened to and followed your intuitive voice.  Bring that memory fully into your awareness stepping into the sights, sounds, aroma, textures and flavor of that feeling of doing something right.
In that same notebook jot down that memory in as much detail as you can. You are building evidence for your mind that you do hear and follow your intuitive voice and what the outcome was.  Keep these two notebooks for 30 days and notice what changes occur and write them down.

How to Use the Voice of Higher Wisdom for Your Good

Have you ever heard or said ” for better or worse the voice in my head is my mother telling me ….”
It could be you hear the voice of your mother or father telling you that you don’t do anything right and so you push yourself to ” show them” this can be a good motivator if used correctly. But how do you know if you are using this in a good way?
The correct motivation would leave you feeling uplifted and positive about yourself.  If you are left with only an empty feeling then it’s time to reassign meaning to that phrase or voice.
Look back at the parent or person  that comes to mind as you hear them telling you “You can do anything right”. Observe the scene on the stage of your minds eye as you watch it play out.   Just observe, now imagine the adult you stepping into and holding the hand of the child you as if to give support. Then as the adult you go back to your place of observing.  What resource is your parent/ individual missing? Is it self confidence or self love. What ever comes to your mind is right.   Now think of a time that you had that resource fully and completely in your life. Bring it in using all your senses. Imagine now that you are giving the gift of this resource to the person you see in your minds eye.  Wrap your arms around them as they accept this gift and clear the energy flow between you and they and this event/ phrase.  Know that they did the best they knew how at that moment. Take a deep breathe in and out as you release the emotions helped in that story. Again observe and notice if when you think of this phrase it has changed somehow?
It is exercises like these that help us identify what voices we are listening to and be better equipped to identify the voices that would serve us better to listen to.
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What memories or emotions remind you of Christmas

What Memories or Emotions Come online when you think of Christmas

   As I began writing, a Christmas of long ago came to my memories  and all the emotions connected to it. When I was very young we would go to my grandmother’s house for a gifts from Santa. The role of Santa was played by my uncle each year. My cousins and I would be giddy with excitement even though we knew this wasn’t the real Santa. It didn’t matter, nor did the gifts, it was being at grandmas and sharing that moment with her. I can see the fake tree with flocking and green lights, I smell the chocolate fudge and I can even taste it now. It wasn’t until I began to write this message that I even realized what my favorite memory was. And as I sit all wrapped up in the joy of Christmas with my grandmother it brings so many other memory’s with it.

What are Your Memories

 

What do you think of? Do you think of years gone by your favorite childhood memory of waking up in the morning seeing the packages under the tree? Perhaps  there’s a different sort of a memory the comes to your mind one that is not so happy.

The holidays for many of us can be a time of sadness. There is a simple technique that you can use to shift out of a sad memory into a happy state of mind.

Find one of your happy memories surrounding Christmas and when you find yourself wondering off into that place of sadness, bring that happy memory to mind.

Try this Simple Emotion Shift

 Our minds are amazing tools and to our benefit it does not know the difference between what is happening currently or what is just a memory. Our mind brings it online as if it were real in this moment.
Try this: think about a lemon, the taste and tartness of that lemon.  As you smell it in your mind you can almost taste it.  Does your mouth start to pucker just a bit? Yes. Because your mind doesn’t know if you are holding the lemon right now.
Once you know how to use this amazing tool to your advantage you can apply it to many situations.
Let’s go back to the holidays and how to assign a good memory to those time when depression creeps in.

Wrap Yourself in the Warmth of  Good Memories

 Think back through the years and see if you can find your favorite Christmas. What do you remember?   That’s it, now bring into that memory the smells associated with it.  Can you taste the holiday cookies? Reach out in your mind and touch the ribbon on the package you see in your minds eye. Listen and what sounds do you hear? Is there laughter or perhaps music. Allow that memory to come back fully using all your senses. Now step into the memory, really immerse yourself in the memory letting those same joyous feels wrap around you like a warm blanket. Notice what it feels like right now in your body, notice the emotions attached to this glorious memory.

Depression is Just a State of Mind

Now take a deep breath and come back into this moment and think if you will about the holidays and why they are so hard for you, why do they make you sad or depressed?  Really step into that feeling fully let it wrap around you as if to consume you. That feeling of being alone or what ever comes to mind.  Notice how this feels in your body. Where do you feel this in your body? Do you feel a heaviness in your heart that weights you down just thinking these things?  Is your breathing shallow, just notice.
Now bring to mind your happiest Christmas memory again and step into fully. Notice as you go back to this memory how easy it is to arrive at a smile. Notice your breathing has become fuller, deeper again. Breath in to this feeling and let it hold strong in your mind and body.

Memories can shift depression

I recommend having a favorite song, a favorite person and moment. Or a picture in nature that you can bring to your mind easily.   As you first begin to notice the state of mind you are in ask yourself if it is where you want to be, is it serving your highest good? Then bring to mind how you would rather feel.  Then bring one of those saved mood shifters to awareness and step fully into it using all your senses to bring it online.
As you go through this exercise begin to breathe deeply, abdomen away from the spine and let that unhealthy state of mind escape with each exhale.

Practice living in the State Of What Do I Want for My Life

Don’t let the holiday blues get you down. Use this to shift any unhappy or depressed state of mind. It is also usefully when anxiety starts to creep in.  You are in control, you get to decide the meaning you assign to the stories and moments in your life.  Decide what you want in life. Step out of the “I don’t want ” conversations with yourself and begin to ask yourself instead: What do I want, how do I want to feel in this moment?  As you practice you will get faster at noticing when you are Not in a good state of mind. And as quickly as you recognize it shift it to “what you do want”.
Let me know what shows up for you with this exercise.  If you found this helpful share it with all your friends. Thanks in advance.
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Find Peace and Connect to Your Higher Wisdom

  Where do you go to find peace, to learn from your own higher wisdom?

To find peace for your life we need to step out of the day to day and look to our higher wisdom. Reflect upon something greater than ourselves.  It was in one of those moments of refection that I came across an amazing app called Examen Prayer.  It is a Jesuit  prayer session with beautiful picture of nature to reflect upon as you read  the questions. Self introspection type questions as you hold space with something greater than self and this life.  I highly recommend this prayer as a way to get in touch with your higher self.   Tip: this strengthens your own intuition

      Why do we need to step out of this world to gain greater understanding of this world?

It is common in our lives that when we stand to close to something or someone our focus can be blurred even limited.  Try this : bring a photo really close to your nose. Observe what you can at this position.  Now move the photo back about  6″ and again observe what you see in the photo. Do you see more of the details?  Now place the photo at enough of a distance to take it in fully without view restrictions.  What do you observe from this perspective do you have a sense of the bigger picture? Tip: Observe an event that is stressing you

 How does Peace replace Stress

Have you ever noticed when you are to close to a stressful event you cant see clearly.  Our perception is limited or unclear. We can only see our perspective an not that of the person who we find fault with .  When we can step back from the emotion of it and see the bigger picture it becomes more clear. We can not find the peace we seek and we remain with that gut churning feeling.   We have all been there.  Tip: find and hold space with something  you are grateful for.

What happens in moments of reflection and wisdom

It is in silence we hear the answers and find peace. We see the bigger picture. When we are able to step into someone else’s shoes and hold a place of compassion for them, we change.  It is in that moment we soften enough to see the bigger picture.
Our wisdom teaches us to find forgiveness for ourselves and soften towards our offender.

If we make a practice gratitude we have a healthy well balanced emotion body.

Tip: Find something or somewhere to sit and ponder to be still and try to distance yourself from a stressful situation.

Listen to  Temple of Wisdom exercise and let me know how it works for you.

In addition to the prayer I have included a sample of a guide to your temple of wisdom.  To work with me you can visit www.in2naturals.com 

Enjoy this sample of a relaxation meditation YouTube

Make the Most of Your Invisible Power.

What is the invisible power within each of us?

 

This invisible power can attract whatever we desire for our lives.  Each of has it, it is available to the rich and poor alike. It is available to the young and old.  It is something that we do each day already. It is something that we have been doing since we were kids. In fact we were better at it as kids.  We have moments in our lives that we grab a corner of it.   What is this invisible power within each of us? It is the power to visualize imagining creating.  Visualizing, or mentally seeing things and conditions as you wish them to be, is the condensing, the specializing power in you that might be illustrated by the lens of a magic lantern. The magic lantern is one of the best symbols of this imaging faculty.

 

How is planning like visualizing?

Have you ever got in your car, family loaded and headed out on vacation?  Did you have it mapped out with the best path to avoid traffic? A path that took you to all your predetermined stops; and motels booked for each location? This is a common thing that we do in preparation for a vacation or even an outing.  We want to know ahead of time the best route to get where we are going.  This is the same as visualizing our path; we see a clear picture of the outcome.  We get an idea in our minds what, when, where, how.

In my family we have adventures and misadventures. The adventures are those trips we take with a plan in mind. A misadventure is a trip we take when we did not have a planned destination in mind and although they are fun for a day they would not serve us in the long term.  At some point we have to know where we want to go and the steps or path to take to get there.   Of course this is only if we truly want to arrive at something.

 

Why is visualizing important in the process of attracting what you desire?

Just like planning our trip we had to have an end in mind.  Using the invisible power within each of us we are able to visualize what we want to bring into our life experiences. We are creative being and as such what we think about we bring about. More importantly what we believe about we bring about. If we believe that everything in our life always works out; then it usually does.  If we believe that we will find our way back to the main road after getting lost in a misadventure; then we usually do.  If we believe that we are shown road marks to get us to our life’s purpose; then we will see those signs.  We see signs and believe we are on path so we continue forward.

 

Gratitude is the best place to start

Human nature is to be unhappy with what is in our lives currently.  We want things to be different but the same things show up over and over.  Has that ever happened to you?  I invite you to start from where you stand and look for something in your current life to be happy or grateful for.  Negative mind chatter keeps us trapped in those unhappy moments and memories. As we remain in the energy flow of those memories we keep getting more of it; Whatever It is. Experiment with flipping those negative thoughts into something to be grateful for and see what shows up.  In most of our lives it is more to be grateful for.   Tapping is a useful technique for disrupting our negative thought patterns.  Notice when you are being negative and then start tapping your breast bone or chin.  Tap for a few moments and say to yourself “I really don’t feel that way, I really feel like___________”  and fill in the blank with a positive statement or something to be grateful for.

Try this exercise and let me know what you notice showing up in your life.  Imagine how awesome your life can be as you bring gratitude to the fore front of your awareness. Who knows maybe that new car will show up!

 

As an Intuitive Life Coach I teach you how to have mind body balance to relief anxiety and depression naturally.

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gratitude begins in the beauty of the world
hold space with nature